I need your help and advice.
For the past month or so I’ve been talking with a friend of mine that is stuck between a rock and a hard place. She’s super talented, accomplished, respected and sought after. She is a crazy combination of perfectionist, a little bit OCD and a liberal dash of just plain awesome.
She likes where she works mostly because she’s comfortable there and she likes the friends she’s made. She doesn’t see a long and glorious road ahead of her, but it’s paying the bills for now. She is valued there and is known as one of the most valuable players. She no longer wakes up each morning looking forward to work, in fact, the dread of Monday morning has now crept into Sunday.
My friend is not perfect. Although she is about as close as I have seen in her field.
You probably know someone similar. Someone who is a swan in the duck pond. Someone who can do something fantastic if they only took the first step. If they only trusted themselves the way everyone else already trusts them.
I’ve advised her that it’s time to move on. But she’s not so sure.
If you haven’t watched An Invocation for Beginnings, I urge you to. It’s 3 minutes that will probably make you feel something deep inside you twisting a little.
Change is difficult.
My seo/geek/blogger crush Lisa Barone threw me for a loop when she announced that she was stepping down from her founding role at Outspoken Media. It was shocking for two reasons; 1. I think of OSM as Lisa and 2. She has no plan (at least publicly known) for her next step. As Dan Rather would say… courage.
How do you know when it’s time to move on? For me it was when I read The Dip
The old saying is wrong—winners do quit, and quitters do win.
Every new project (or job, or hobby, or company) starts out exciting and fun. Then it gets harder and less fun, until it hits a low point—really hard, and not much fun at all.
And then you find yourself asking if the goal is even worth the hassle. Maybe you’re in a Dip—a temporary setback that will get better if you keep pushing. But maybe it’s really a Cul-de-Sac, which will never get better, no matter how hard you try.
According to bestselling author Seth Godin, what really sets superstars apart from everyone else is the ability to escape dead ends quickly, while staying focused and motivated when it really counts.
Winners quit fast, quit often, and quit without guilt—until they commit to beating the right Dip for the right reasons. In fact, winners seek out the Dip. They realize that the bigger the barrier, the bigger the reward for getting past it. If you can become number one in your niche, you’ll get more than your fair share of profits, glory, and long-term security.
Losers, on the other hand, fall into two basic traps. Either they fail to stick out the Dip—they get to the moment of truth and then give up—or they never even find the right Dip to conquer.
Please let me know in the comments how you figured it out in your life.